I remember going through college, thinking about life, watching others wreck their relationships and gleaning lessons from them. The one conclusion I came to was that you have to be in another’s life to help make the other a better person. It’s a rather harsh way to approach a relationship, I know, and it can limit one’s involvement in another’s life, but that’s the way I begin to establish boundaries. It’s also a great way to measure the success of a relationship.
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. I know, I know, its importance is trumped up by the greeting card, floral, jewelry and foil balloon industries. But there really is no poor excuse for examining the relationship with one’s spouse.
Ten years ago, before I met Katy (in person), I didn’t value listening nearly enough. I heavily salted most food. I was sure that, if I tried hard enough with well thought-out and accurate evidence, I could convince anyone I was right. I withdrew from others when I felt hurt.
I think it’s safe to say that Katy’s helped to make me a better person. So if you have ever been affected by my generosity or talked my ear off, you might want to send her a note of appreciation.
I love my wife.